Paul,
I may be hallucinating, but I sense that we're making progress.
"So, yes, we have particular time, particular existent state (incidentally, this is in respect of anything, could be the universe, or a ball, or you)."
We agree here, Paul, and this, for me, is the key to the whole concept. I simply choose to think in terms of the existent state of the most inclusive thing I can imagine, which is the universe, which of course includes balls and us and mulberry bushes and leaves, etc.
"The expression is sort of correct, but the "wrong" way round. A point in time (ie a unit, as in timing) is, by definition, definable by the quickest at which any given alteration occurs."
Curses! Foiled again! The dreaded "but" rears its ugly head. Here, Paul, is one place where our thinking diverges. What you call "a point in time" (which I believe is the same as what I call "a particular time," and what others commonly refer to as a "moment" or as a "moment in time" is not, according to my view, "a unit, as in timing," nor is it, "by definition, definable by the quickest at which any given alteration occurs."
Quickest relative to what, Paul? You've already built a clock into the universe with this statement. Forget clocks for now. Banish clocks from the universe. (A difficult feat, given that virtually any process may be viewed as a clock.) The "quickness" with which any one alteration occurs is only meaningful if we compare it with some other alteration. For convenience, we arbitrarily select one alteration and call it our clock. (A wise - - i.e., optimally useful - - selection of what to use as a clock clearly is not totally arbitrary, but I'm speaking purely theoretically.)
"There is a particular physically existent state, then another, and another, and so on. A property of the "stuff" (technical word!) which comprises any given state causes alteration."
Again, we are in total agreement here. The "property" which causes alteration in any given state is what we humans have, in our infinite wisdom, named the laws of physics or the laws of nature. Some of the best thinkers ever to have lived have taken it as their mission to understand and codify these laws.
"But in physical terms, there never was an "it" ("leaf"), there was just a sequence of different physically existent states."
Here we diverge again. I say that there was indeed a leaf. "Leaf" is the term we use to describe a particular configuration of "stuff." (I tend to use the technical term "bits and pieces" rather than "stuff," but I can live with your terminology.) The configuration of the ensemble of atoms (stuff) which had come together in the form of a leaf subsequently becomes altered (in compliance with the laws of physics) to become an ensemble of stuff we call "mulch." This subsequently will be scattered (again, in compliance with the laws of physics) and some will be taken up by plant roots and eventually become another leaf, which may be eaten by an animal, which is in turn eaten by another animal, and which eventually may become a part of you or me.
jcns