Hi Jeff,
I agree with your second statement, that aether waves cause the 3 spatial dimensions (and time) to exist, apart from which nothing would exist.
The physicics community is motivated by the desire to explain everything with a model. My motiviation is different. I started off with the assumption that gravity drives and acceleration field generators are allowed by nature. So I had to figure out what was the ontological nature of space itself. Afterall, general relativity is about curving space-time. If I'm trying to curve space-time, then I have to know what space-time is. Furthermore, I need some way to curve it without using ridiculous amounts of mass-energy. So basically, I took the two postulates of special relativity, I combined them with wave functions, and I created an aether medium that obeys SR and QM.
Since gravity causes light to freequency shift along the radii of the gravitating body, I decided to try it in reverse. The idea is to emit a linear EM frequency chirp, repeatedly. I hope that this will cause the immediate space-time to curve, thus inducing a gravity field.
For this to work, I have to overcome conservation of energy, but not violate it. Anyway, thank you for inquiring.
Jason Wolfe