Dear Vesselin,
I think you're absolutely right, and that your arguments are clear and convincing. However, I thought that most serious relativists already took this view. I come from the mathematical side, and don't know any serious relativists personally. I always had the impression that "quantum gravity" was more about the fundamental structure of what we call "spacetime" than questioning the knowledge that gravity is an aspect of this structure. I would be interested to know your views on a few related questions:
1. What do you think about "unification?" Your essay clearly rules out treating gravity like the "other forces," but doesn't rule out treating the "other forces" like gravity in some sense. I know there have been many efforts to "geometrize" electromagnetism, for instance.
2. What do you think about the fundamental structure of spacetime? Treating gravity as a structural aspect does not a priori demand that the structure involved be a manifold. Could matter-energy and "forces" be structural aspects as well?
Thanks, and take care,
Ben Dribus