Dear Kevin,
Yours is a commendable striving to discern fundamental particle behavior. However, since you talk of 'influence others', 'network' I presume you imply interactions in space. Can the true nature of such be well described without first deciphering the nature of space?
I commend the following for your contemplation,
The Pythagoreans say: Space is a composite of monads and geometry is the study and science of space.
Leibniz says: monads are the true atoms of Nature - the elements out of which everything is made. He also says I think there is no empty space--the extended world is entirely full, a plenum.
Newton opines:...And my account throws a satisfactory light on the difference between between a body and a region of space. The raw materials of each are the same in their properties and nature, and differ only in how God created them. (By this he meant that the only difference is that while body was created by God, the other, space was eternal and not created).
Wheeler asks: What else is there out of which to build a particle except geometry itself?
Then going further,
Leibniz says: Within a monad there's nothing to re-arrange, and there is no conceivable internal motion in it that could be started, steered, sped up, or slowed down, as can happen in a composite thing that has parts that can change in relation to one another.
So we can say that the only way for monads to begin or end--to come into existence or go out of existence - is instantaneously, being created or annihilated all at once. Composite things, in contrast with that, can begin or end gradually, through the assembling or scattering of their parts.
So from the foregoing, coming to the two alternate states available to the monad, the fundamental 'it', what states that can be designated 0 and 1... which will be the binary states (the bit)?
Paul Reed in his first post above talks of existent/non-existent although I am not sure he buys the ideas I put forward in my essay.
Best regards and good luck,
Akinbo