Hi Ram,
The irreconcilable difference between Classical and Quantum Mechanics seems to me that in CM particles are thought to be only the cause of interactions, whereas QM can be understood only if we realize that in a self-creating universe where particles have to create themselves, each other, particles, particle properties must be as much the cause as the product, the effect of their interactions, of forces between them. As a result, a particle in CM is thought of as having a surface separating some content, mass (cause), from its effect on the environment, its gravitational field, so here there's a border between matter and space, as if space, though curvable by mass, has additional properties unrelated to mass, so particles in this view are fremdkörper in an alien environment, as if matter and space have been created separately. As this makes no sense, I agree with ''Einstein's earlier belief that "on the basis of the general theory of relativity, space as opposed to 'what fills space' has no separate existence ... [so] the mere consideration of a spacetime structure should be equivalent to considering the accompanying fields ... also.'' Though General Relativity is thought to be a background independent (a description of space without thinking it embedded in an 'Über-space'), by regarding the mass of particles to be only the cause of forces, mass becomes an intrinsic, privately owned quantity, i.e. an absolute quantity which but for practical difficulties can be measured even from without the universe, as if the gram is defined even outside of it, so the flaw of GR seems to me is that it isn't relative enough, not really background independent at all.
This same misunderstanding -that we think of the universe as an ordinary object we may imagine to look at from without, which comes down to assuming that the meter, second, gram and joule are defined even outside of it- has led to the mistaken belief that the Planck constant is the minimum energy quantum, the Planck length the minimum distance in the universe. If in blackbody radiation there are more energy levels per unit energy interval at higher energies so we need more decimals to distinguish successive energy levels at higher energies, then the energy gap between subsequent levels can become arbitrarily small: though energy is quantified, there is no minimum limit to the size of the quantum. The Planck constant h then is like the number 1 in arithmetic: 0.5 < 1 < 1.5. If we can measure h more accurately, add another decimal at a higher energy, then we can write that number as 0.95 < 1.0 < 1.05. So if in our equations we again set h = 1, then every time we improve its accuracy by another decimal, we increase the magnifying power of our microscope with a factor 10. In other words, the extent to which spacetime is defined, detailed somewhere, depends on the local energy density, so space is not built from discrete unit volumes which have the same size everywhere -and contain the same quantity of energy which indeed would lead to ''horrible fine-tuning problems''. The higher the energy density somewhere, the more detailed spacetime is, the greater the physical difference (observed lengths of rods, pace of clocks) is between adjacent positions, whereas the farther from masses, the emptier spacetime is, the less positions over a larger area differ. In my study I show why a self-creating universe (as opposed to a big bang universe) doesn't need any dark energy, nor inflation to explain observations. If particles are as much the product as the source of their interactions, of forces between them so there is no border between the mass of a particle and its gravitational field, then we can say that mass, a gravitational field is an area of curved, contracted spacetime, or, equivalently, that the gravitational field contains, represents mass, energy, so ''It is thus established that the source of curvature in (3) is the energy of the gravitational field present at the points exterior to r = 0'' indeed. To be continued in the next post.