Finland does NOT belong to NATO of obvious reasons. A trip to StPetersburg costs 29 euros... We could NOT stop Russia from building a nuke here... and also those reasons are obvious as the nuke is an armslength away from a Nato head quarter in Sweden. Not even swedish protests help. This is our reality here.
Reality is NOT using guns. We are just 6 millions, Swedes are 10 millions... We have fought against Russia before, also together with Sweden. Wars cost a lot. So we wanted to be free. We had a civil war here due to this also. Like you in USA had a civil war due to your problems with the slavery, still not solved. There is no true equality between the races.
Evidently you chose another solution than we here. You chose an ongoing, silent war. We try to adopt. The nuke has still no bulding permission... butt Russia is a giant bear we try to keep calm. We must use diplomacy, not war. This maybe describes some differences in lifestyle between us?