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Amanda,
Your thesis vitally depends on miraculous theoretical results like this one:
"...Hawking particles objectively exist according to observers outside the black hole and objectively do not exist according to the unlucky observers who fall in."
In my view, juggling with such results, without questioning the underlying assumptions, leads you nowhere. The miraculous results may simply be absurd consequences of false assumptions. Let me give examples of an opposite approach:
Lee Smolin, The Trouble With Physics: "Einstein's special theory of relativity is based on two postulates: One is the relativity of motion, and the second is the constancy and universality of the speed of light. Could the first postulate be true and the other false? If that was not possible, Einstein would not have had to make two postulates. But I don't think many people realized until recently that you could have a consistent theory in which you changed only the second postulate."
Joao Magueijo, Faster Than the Speed of Light: "Lee [Smolin] and I discussed these paradoxes at great length for many months, starting in January 2001. We would meet in cafés in South Kensington or Holland Park to mull over the problem. THE ROOT OF ALL THE EVIL WAS CLEARLY SPECIAL RELATIVITY. All these paradoxes resulted from well known effects such as length contraction, time dilation, or E=mc^2, all basic predictions of special relativity. And all denied the possibility of establishing a well-defined border, common to all observers, capable of containing new quantum gravitational effects."
Pentcho Valev