Dear Giacomo and Matt,
Very interesting discussion! I'm sorry to butt in, but I've been trying to have some discussion about the relativity of simultaneity, preferred frames, absolute time, etc., through the last couple of contests, so I was hoping you'd let me join you here.
As one raised on cosmology, I have to give my support to Giacomo's comment that "As most cosmologist admit, we have a preferred frame: the background radiation." Cosmic time is one of the basic assumptions of modern cosmology, although it's not commonly spoken of as being opposed to the spirit of relativity (which it obviously is). Actually, my previous essay argued that standard cosmology goes a step too far by remaining true to the Einsteinian definition of simultaneity as synonymous with synchronicity, albeit only in the cosmic frame.
I tried to discuss the distinction between simultaneity and synchronicity that needs to be made in a realistic version of relativity on Ken Wharton's page, because of a funny inconsistency I see in his essay. He based his essay on the implication from the relativity of simultaneity, that we live in a block universe where all of space-time is real at once. But his analysis makes use of what he calls the Independence Fallacy, which, if you agree with it, provides a very strong argument *against* the relativity of simultaneity (actually, it goes roughly as Giacomo has stated it above). Since the issue has come up here as one that interests you, I'd be interested in any response you might have to my posts there.
Thanks, Daryl