John,
My contention is simple: Two things, be they particles, waves, fields or anything else, cannot interact, if they cannot even detect each others existence. Detection requires detection of information - at least one bit. Hence, all interactions are driven by information detection. Since the ability to detect information from a signal is a function of the signal-to-noise-ratio, which is in turn a function of the distance squared, long-range interactions are governed by the inverse-square law. At short-ranges, the emitter may appear as an extended source, rather than a point-source. Consequently, the situation in regards to the signal-to-noise ratio is more complicated than just an expanding sphere.
This is why quantum tunneling occurs - if an entity cannot even detect the existence of a barrier and the barrier cannot detect the entity - then the barrier, in effect is not even there.
It is also why the phenomenon of virtual particles exist. I like the analogy of two submarines, moving through an ocean of noise, trying to detect (and thus interact) with each other. If they make contact, they commence to interact, generating emissions that can be detected by others. But if they quickly lose contact (can no longer even detect each other) they return to running silent and running deep. And the ships on the surface, that themselves detected the subs' initial response, are left to wonder what just happened- was there anything really there?
Obviously, individual particles do not expand with distance, so their detection is not an inverse-square law - it is described, statistically, by the quantized behaviors which are the subject of quantum theory.
Rob McEachern