Professor McHarris,
While you cover quite a few aspects of the problem, I think there is a particular issue that both illustrates the problem and has to be addressed, first and foremost.
We experience reality as flashes of perception and consequently experience time as this "flow," from past to future. While modern physics senses something wrong, it still codifies this perception by treating time as measures of duration, from one event to the next.
The reality is it is change turning future to past. As in tomorrow becomes yesterday because the earth turns. This makes time an effect of action, similar to temperature.
Duration is just the state of the present, as events coalesce and dissolve.
Time is asymmetric because action is inertial. The earth turns one direction, not both.
Clocks can run at different rates because they are separate actions. A faster clock will use energy quicker. Much as an animal with faster metabolism will age quicker, than one with a slower rate. Yet remain in the same present.
The simultaneity of the present is dismissed by arguing different events will be witnessed in different order, from different locations, but this is no more consequential than seeing the moon as it was a moment ago, simultaneous with seeing stars as they were years ago. It is the energy that is conserved, not the information. That this energy is radiated away is why we can see these events and why they no longer exist, except as information stored in the energy.
The future is not pre-determined, even if the laws of nature are deterministic, because it is only the occurrence of the event which can fully calculate the total input into it.
Think of reality as a dichotomy of energy and form. Energy manifests form and form defines the constituent energy. As living beings, we evolved a central nervous system to process information and the digestive, respiratory and circulatory systems to process energy. Consequently we tend to focus our attention on the forms, than the energy and try to understand the energy by breaking it into over smaller units, but that only multiplies the potential interactions.
If you want to understand the past, study the information, but if you want to understand the future, study the energy.
Reductionism is quite useful but always keep in mind that generals run armies, while specialist is an enlisted grade.
Regards,
John Merryman