Dear Ben - first of all I want to thank you again for your supportive remarks on John and my submission! Thankfully, after checking my records, I found your essay in the list of ones I loved as well. I am happy to see that enough people also loved your essay. Honestly, the rating and voting was overwhelming to me, and I admire your thoroughness in this essay contest. Hopefully you win a prize, both for your actual essay submission as well as your engagement in the contest. It will be well deserved.
On a sidenote, after flying over the 300 or so essay titles, zipping through some 30 essays without actually reading it, there were some 10-15 essays that I actually read and felt competent voting on; with an average score somewhere in the 8's since - by selection - I chose only to read essays that already looked interesting on first sweep. It should be needless to say that I voted honestly, if overwhelmed by the mass of entries.
Regarding your causal metric hypothesis, there is a scenario that I would love to ask for your opinion on whether or not it may be compatible with your hypothesis. Let me attempt:
(1) What you describe as finite set members in your universe are representations of actual particles. Rather than placing particles into a somehow finite spacetime model, spacetime only exists (if emergent) at places where there is a particle. Each particle has well defined attributes, some of which are "location-like" parameters that are used to model when and how strong these particles interact; some others are properties that characterize strengths of interaction under the various fundamental forces (charge, mass). Just as there is no such thing as a continuous charge or mass between any two interacting particles, there is no such thing as continuous space or time between any two particles or interaction, either.
(2) Particle location parameters are coordinates in the similar sense to spacetime coordinates in General Relativity, they are unobservable in principle but model something ultimately observable. There is not necessarily a distinct time-like coordinate or three distinct space-like coordinates, though. Instead, the 4 (or more, but not much more) coordinates will eventually appear space-like or time-like under observation as defined in the next (3) and (4).
(3) Human bias evaluates physical forces by observing motion of electromagnetically bound objects (atoms, molecules). It makes us humans believe that there is a Lorentzian base manifold that other forces act upon. Accordingly, conventional physical law has electromagnetism as genuinely describable on Lorentzian base manifolds. What we use to call "observation" is in fact a projection of the entire space of particles and parameters into a smaller subspace; the causal set is projected into a more narrow parameter space of itself, where that subspace has: (a) one time-like coordinate, (b) one space-like coordinate, and (c) genuinely Minkowskian metric. However, this is not a genuine property of your universe, but merely an extraneous projection that mimics human experience.
(3a) Granted, it is a very useful projection since it would be hard to observe any kind of force in a lab that explicitly does not use atoms or molecules ...
(4) If you model interaction between any two particles, you do so by understanding all the properties of the two corresponding causal set members. Causality, and partial order, is defined by the effective change of properties of each set member: Interaction is unique and well defined, therefore, the change of parameters of your set members through the interaction are well defined, "causal" relations: The location parameters how strong interaction is based on the set geometry (warning: weasel word "geometry"!). Pairwise calculation between any two particles (any two set members) give you an effective physical interaction, a force so to speak, which in turn is modeled by modifying the particle's location parameters.
(4a) In the language of causal sets, I believe that this would mean that physical interaction may change the (partial) order of your set members. I am not sure, though.
(5) Projecting all such particle location parameters onto an overwhelmingly electromagnetic (Minkowskian) observer space results in the fundamental laws of nature we know today.
Do you think such a procedure is compatible with your causal metric hypothesis?
Best wishes, Jens