Dear Israel,
Thanks very much for responding. First of all, on the twins paradox thing, I see your point. I forgot that in the scenario in my essay I did have each of them claim that the other shouldn't have aged enough. It's just that that wasn't the point I meant to illustrate, so I didn't think of it. You'll notice that I didn't describe in any way how they got back together, but just said that they did. I didn't say anything about the train turning around, for instance. What I was really meaning to illustrate at that point was the symmetry of relative time-dilation between two systems in uniform translatory motion.
I also see that I only managed to confuse the issue on time. I think Newton's definition is right. I was just trying to say something about the fact that when we think of something flowing, we may tend to think of it flowing through space. In fact, it's flowing through space in time, which is more complicated yet. Do you see how it's confusing to use verbs (like flow or rest or change) to describe time, when time is actually the denominator of those verbs? i.e. things flow or rest or change *in time*. I think that already starts to do a good job of defining time, but there's something more to it. That's the metrical structure, which is the "equable" part in Newton's definition.
But when Newton says time flows equably, he makes a point of saying that that flow is without reference to anything external. So he's saying that it doesn't flow through any space, which is the point I was trying to be careful about, although I see I was just confusing the issue. He calls this equable flow without reference to anything external "duration", which is what I mean when I say it's the denominator of all verbs, and that it has well-ordered measure, or metrical structure.
But then that metrical structure has to be a part of the Universe, if we're saying that only the present Universe is real at any given moment. That's another important point, I think.
So, to summarise, I think time's a tricky thing to define because in defining it we'd like to use verbs (like "flow", etc.), but time is already implicit in those verbs. I think the "flow" or "passage" of time has well-defined metrical structure, but I think it's worth cautioning (as Newton did) not to think of that "flow" as occurring through a space that has that metrical structure.
The other point you brought up was about observing absolute rest. I think looking at local clock synchronisation and relative motion is really the wrong way of going about this.
But I think cosmology does show, in a totally different way, that there is an absolute rest frame. Historically, this evidence came as follows: if there were no such thing as absolute rest, and all motion were just random, then the relative motion of everything, from any perspective, should be uniformly distributed on the interval (0,c). The fact that the stellar velocities are orders of magnitude less, was already taken by Einstein as motivation enough to assume a cosmic time variable in 1917. Then came the discovery of the redshift-distance relation, which was taken to indicate cosmic expansion--i.e., the redshifts are not thought to be due to relative motion, but due to the expansion of space through which the light travels. Over time, we've discovered tens or hundreds of thousands of objects with redshifts greater than 1, confirming this suspicion. These cosmological redshifts are therefore many orders of magnitude greater than the motion of any galaxy through space, including our own. What this means is that we can neglect the motions of all bodies through space and model redshifts in an expanding universe under the assumption that they're all absolutely at rest. The model, which is a very accurate fit to the data, assumes absolute space and time, which we call the Universe and cosmic time.Through the model, we therefore have a means of measuring cosmic time *even without knowing our own absolute motion*. That's simply a handy thing about living in an expanding universe.
But you know that's not the whole story. Cosmic expansion suggests that maybe the Universe was much denser and hotter at some finite time in the past. This led to the prediction of the CMB, which was confirmed. The CMB is a radiation field that's supposed to fill all of space, cooling uniformly as the Universe expands. One feature of particular interest is the dipole anisotropy, which tells us that the Solar System is moving through the CMB towards the constellation Leo at 370 km/s. Since the CMB is supposed to be an isotropic and homogeneous radiation field that fills all of space, we take the CMB's rest-frame to be the absolute rest-frame, and therefore infer that our own absolute motion is 370 km/s in the direction stated. This motion is the combination of the Sun's velocity through the Galaxy and the Galaxy's velocity through the Local Group and the Local Group's velocity within the Local Supercluster, etc. How that combination actually comes together doesn't really matter, though, because we have a direct measurement of our absolute velocity, and that's what mattered.
Now there's a really good consistency check that indicates to us that this picture is correct: the CMB's multipole anisotropy signature. Again, before it was even observed, the calculations had been done, to describe the effects of vacuum fluctuations at the time the CMB was created, as we would observe them today in macroscopic anisotropies in an otherwise isotropic CMB signature, as these anisotropies would have expanded along with the Universe. The measurements, as you know, are consistent with the model parameters that have been derived through the redshift observations.
Therefore, we do have strong empirical support for an absolute frame of rest. But that's all that it is: empirical support. We have no way of proving that it's right, any more than we have of proving anything else through observation. But it's a really consistent picture, and it at least refutes the claim that "we can't ever observe absolute motion, so we might as well assume that there isn't any".
I hope I've answered your questions here. I'm sorry if I was cranky before. Thanks for taking the time to clarify where I had been mistaken or unclear.
Best regards,
Daryl