Dear Francesco,
This was a beautifully written essay, with interesting ideas. I agree on the relational nature of things, or at least that all we can know are relations. More precisely, relations in which we are part. Whether or not reality is purely relational, this idea is also fundamental for mathematics. Mathematical structures are just sets and relations. An n-ary relation is a subset of another set which is a Cartesian product of n sets. In fact each set A is an 1-ary relation, being a subset of A itself. So mathematical structures are just relations. And, surprisingly as it may be, all mathematical structures are like this (I gave more details here). Again, it is a metaphysical assumption we have that there is something more than this in the physical world, and the assumption that only relations exist is also metaphysical, and there seems to be no objective way to prove any of them. But why make the least economical assumption in this case? I find it more convenient to take the relational position. Now, does this mean that there is no reality? This would pose a problem, since relations themselves may be that reality. Throwing away the relations leaves us with no structure at all. What can we get if we throw away the sets connected by the relations? Making them empty sets doesn't help, and not because there will then be no relations, but because you can rebuild everything out of the empty set alone. I very much agree with relationism, and I think that the emptiness you mention is as empty as the quantum vacuum. I mean, no matter how vacuous we may thing it is, it has some structure, which is relational, but still a stable frame.
About the ballerina, the relation (link) seems to lead to the wrong place. Not related to your essay, I wrote about the illusion you mention on my blog, where I explain that there is a definite sense of spinning. This is because the author of the illusion did not remove the relation between the ballerina and her shadow encoded in the laws of perspective.
I liked how you handled the paradox at the end of your essay. In fact, I used the interplay of those principles you discuss, of contradiction and of non-contradiction, to propose a possibility to get everything out of nothing in this older essay, page 7.
I replied to your comment on my page as well. I wish you good luck with the contest!
Best wishes,